Tuesday, November 8, 2016
When You Become Unglued
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.” (Proverbs 14:1)
I was reading the book “Unglued” with a Bible study group, and it is a great resource to help you make wise choices in the midst of raw emotions. It is so easy to let frustrations build up inside of us over time that we may bury deep within us or build walls of protection around us. It refers to different groups of people: the exploders, and the stuffers. The exploders are those that simply explode in frustration when things go wrong. They might be the ones yelling at the cashier because the cashier rang something up wrong by charging them twice. Or someone accidently hits their car in the parking lot, and they freak out because now they are late for an appointment, and have to deal with insurance and paperwork, etc. Then there are the stuffers, these individuals hold in their emotions and they let them build and build, until their spouse or significant other looks at them the wrong and they explode bringing up everything they did wrong in the last month.
I’m sure we are all guilty of being an exploder and a stuffer at different times and this is normal. Can you imagine though, how different life could be if we took a second before exploding, took a deep breath, said a quick prayer, and then calmly addressed the situation. Instead of harboring our feelings or flying off the handle, we need to treat each other with respect all times. If someone is getting on your last nerve, you need to calmly let them know how they are making you feel. I’m sure they don’t want to hurt you or frustrate you, and if we address the situation head on, it doesn’t leave time for stuffing those frustrations because we dealt with them right away! Next time someone pushes your buttons, take that deep breath before you blow off steam. Don’t tear each other down; our job is to build each other up!
And if you are interested in the book, “Unglued”, check it out on Amazon. It is a great read!